Psychological Reasons For Infertility That Should Be Addressed As Soon As Possible

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Infertility is a real problem for modern women. Some couples try for years to become parents, but they never think that psychological factors could be the root cause of not being able to conceive.

People turn to different types of clinics for help, and it should be noted that this often yields positive results. But when the cause of the problem is psychological, then the expensive tests which must be done over and over, the treatment of nonexistent diseases, the undesirable effects of hormone therapy, and the spending of lots of time and money - this all pushes that moment when the parents hear their newborn baby cry for the very first time even further into the future.

Fear of Motherhood

Sometimes, despite how strong a woman's desire is to get pregnant and give birth to a healthy baby, she herself - to some degree - subconsciously "blocks" herself from conceiving. In order to understand how this works, let's look at a few simple examples. If you imagine a big, juicy, sour lemon, you'll notice that you start to salivate. In this case, the fruit is imaginary, but the saliva is absolutely real. Another example: some people, before an exam, literally become physically faint and experience all the symptoms of food poisoning - discomfort, nausea, and in some cases even diarrhea. Most are sure that they didn't eat anything that would cause such symptoms.

The point is that our brain does not distinguish between the real and the imaginary. When the fear of something becomes "chronic," the body is in a constant state of stress. When this is the case, neither tests, handfuls of pills, nor expensive treatments will help. When a person experiences negative feelings and emotions for a long time but for some reason tries to ignore them and just get by, he is in a so-called low-stress condition. This is exactly what leads to psychosomatic disorders.

The subconscious fear of motherhood causes a woman's body to react with increased stress and spasms in smooth muscle tissue, of which the uterus, Fallopian tubes, and vagina are a part. In other words, the reproductive system actively resists conception.

One of the reasons a woman may experience this condition is fear of the following:

-becoming less attractive because of changes in her figure
-the responsibilities that accompany motherhood
-being a bad mother
-becoming detached from her husband
-having a child that is not the sex that the father wanted
-loss of work and becoming dependent on her spouse
-having a difficult birth (especially if there is a family history of difficult deliveries or stillbirths)
-lack of support from her spouse

It should be mentioned that these are the most common reasons for fear which almost all specialists deal with, but there are many more.

Other Psychological Reasons for Infertility

Fear is just one of the feelings that may keep a woman from becoming a mother. An additional "mechanism" that blocks conception could be feelings of blame, shame, depression, and many other emotions which are controlled by our subconsciousness. This is why it is good to consult a psychotherapist. One of a specialist's jobs is to teach a woman to recognize her feelings and needs as well as what is behind them. After receiving such help, many women easily become mothers.

In addition to hidden, subconscious emotions, another psychological cause of infertility could be a "defect" in the family system. This happens when a woman is, in effect, already a "mother" to other family members, such as parents, brothers and sisters, or her own husband. This could also include situations where the husband and wife have, in a sense, traded roles in the family. Additionally, during therapy it is often discovered that family situations, passed on from one generation to the next, can interfere with a woman conceiving and having a healthy pregnancy.

A woman's relationship with her own mother, or memories of what she was like when the woman was a child, is one of the common reasons a woman can't get pregnant. There are two reasons this may be the case.

1. A woman could be upset with her mother for something, and the reasons for this may or may not be valid. As a result, she does not want to become the same herself, and this may be the reason she is childless.
2. The situation could be quite the opposite: A woman is very devoted to her mother and is subconsciously still a child regardless of her age. This is often facilitated by restrictive beliefs, for example, that the closest person in her life will die if she "grows up" and becomes independent herself.

The family system is an extensive subject, and more articles will be written about it. In the meantime, may all women see their dream come true, and in the near future may each one enjoy to the full all the joys of motherhood.

Source: Practical psychologist, Gestalt therapist, family counselor Elina Rosina 

The information in this article is for informational purposes only. The editorial board does not guarantee any results and does not ask readers to fully rely on the information outlined above.

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